Talk back, talk bad.

It's inevitable that we all say nasty things about other people, whether or not we know them.

There are times when we are compelled to criticize and laugh at people who walk past us at shopping malls. In my case, I'd usually shoot death stares at parents of incorrigible kids, to shame them. Like seriously, go control your nincompoop of a child. Don’t let it run around, touching the clothes of strangers with their grubby hands (especially if they are very ugly kids)!!! Put them on a friggin leash if you must. Who am I to judge them, though? Who am I to say that they are irresponsible, ineffective parents? Furthermore, who am I to call their kids ugly?! They're just people. I am in no position whatsoever to pass judgements. So what? We all know this but I doubt it stops us from inwardly tsk-tsking at strangers who just, well, don’t quite sit with us.

The point here is, I believe that it's at least justifiable for one to pass comments and opinions of negative nature about people we know. Maybe it's controversial but it's true. At least there are grounds for debate on this one. Some people you meet through the course of life become your friends and there are some friends who you just end up not liking. The more you get to know them, the more you just don’t get on with them. I'm not saying you despise them but you just don’t see eye to eye on certain things that they do/say and this leads to plenty of bitchings. But don’t you see? At least your dislike is justifiable. If you can stand by your claims and prove to yourself, at the very least that this friend of yours is horrible, than your dislike is justified!

It's not possible for you to like everybody anyway. So it doesn't make you a bad person if you wake up one day, thinking, "Hmmm, I really don’t like so-and-so, because she does such disgusting things like...(here is where you proceed to find evidence to support your claim)"

Yes, it doesn't make you a bad person even if so-and-so happens to be somewhat of an acquaintance. So whoever said you're backstabbing your own friend? You're merely just airing out your views! Just make sure you have plenty of evidence to support your claims. Be prepared to face rebuttals and be prepared to listen to awful things about yourself as well (if you decide to share it with the other members in the arena, of course). After all, every single bitching comes with a price to pay.